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The Ties that Bind–And Bless


Turn on your radio and you won’t have to listen long before you hear a song about relationships. Today you’re likely to hear Adele singing about “Someone Like You” or Jay Z and Beyoncé boasting that they’re “Crazy in Love,” but songs extolling the virtues of love and friendship have existed since the beginning of time.

Each of us comes into the world with a deficit—a kind of hole in our souls that can only be filled as we relate to God and to each other in a healthy way. No other dynamic in the universe has the power to so utterly consume our hearts and minds than our interpersonal relations.

We have all experienced the joy of sharing deeply with another living soul. Yet, the intimate relationships, caring communion, deep fellowship, and lasting bonds that God meant for human good and His glory have been used by the enemy as tools to enslave and destroy us. When we tie ourselves to the wrong things—especially dysfunctional people—we put our lives and dreams in jeopardy.

These “soul ties” result from any number of things: physical or emotional addictions, codependent relationships, counter-productive habits, ignorance, selfishness, cowardice, or any other behavior the Bible refers to as “works of the flesh” rather than the “fruit of the Spirit” (Gal. 5:19,22). These ties keep the fullness of God’s Spirit from being manifested in our lives.

Take a moment to ask yourself: In what ways have I allowed my soul to be tied to relationships or habits that limit my growth?

Thankfully, God offers the Holy Spirit to guide us to greater health. As the Spirit leads us, we can cut unhealthy ties and form new connections to people who will offer strengths for our weaknesses, help us embrace greater levels of success, or shape our vision of the world.

This growth isn’t easy, but as Scripture reminds us, “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11 ESV).

Take a moment to consider: Do your relationships hold you back or help you grow in godliness? It’s never too late to start building relationships that can change your life.

Praying that God will deepen and enrich your relationships,

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“There is an internal landscape, a geography of the soul; we search for its outlines in our lives.
Those who are lucky enough to find it, ease like water over a stone, on to its fluid contours, and are home.”
—Josephine Hart

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